Gemini: Can People Really Fall In Love Too Fast?By |
The interesting thing about Gemini and falling in love quickly is that they can easily do that.
In fact, they do not need much encouragement to do that.
Think of it this way. If it has been a long time since you drank water, the next time you see a dirty pool of water, you probably will jump right in and start drinking.
Gemini people can often trick themselves into thinking that they are unloved. They can often find themselves thinking that they are not getting the kind of attention that they deserve.
Not surprisingly, they end up settling for people that may not give them the respect, love and admiration that they deserve.
In other words, Gemini people fall in love too quickly.
Here are some other reasons why Gemini people can fall in love too fast.
If you do not want to continue suffering heartbreak because you end up loving the wrong person, you might want to pay attention to the following.
You might want to wait a little bit longer before you allow yourself to fall in love.
You have to remember that love does not happen automatically. Love is voluntary.
This means that you have to give yourself permission to fall in love.
Unfortunately, Gemini women or men trick themselves into falling in love too quickly that they end up getting hurt over and over again.
If you want to achieve better results in your love life, pay attention to the following factors.
Recognizing and dealing with these factors head on can help you avoid all sorts of unnecessary heartache and drama down the road.
You Fall In Love with Yourself
Gemini people fall in love very quickly because they are actually falling in love with themselves.
Seriously, they read themselves into another person. It is very easy what is wrong with this picture.
First of all, you are not falling in love with that person. You are falling in love with the ideals you project into that person.
In other words, you are becoming emotionally infatuated with a cartoon that you create.
You are simply using that other person. You are simply using that person to project your dreams, hopes and aspirations.
This can end up very badly for you. You can end up feeling used and abused. The worst part is you only have yourself to blame.
You Read Your Romantic Ideals into People Instead of Truly Appreciating Them
The key to falling in love is to love people for who they are. In other words, accept them for all their warts and imperfections. This will let you connect to them in a deeper level.
Everybody is imperfect. Everybody is different. Learn to accept the differences.
However, if you are simply going to look at a person and imagine them to be the ideal partner, you are simply setting yourself up for failure. At the very least, this person can turn out into a monster.
This person can turn into the precise opposite of who you imagine that person to be.
Do not paint yourself into this emotional corner.
Appreciate people for who they are, not what you wish them to be.
You Interact with People Based on What You Think They Expect
When you interact with people based on what you think they expect from you, you are simply acting. You are being a hypocrite. You are lying.
There is really no other way to say it. I wish there was a polite way to say it, but that is really what you are engaged in.
Instead of interacting with people in a way that is aimed at pleasing them, just be yourself.
Many of the things that come out of your mouth may not be pleasing. Many of the things that you do may not be pleasant, but that is the way things are.
By being real and committing to a life of integrity, you attract the right people.
You have to remember that if you have to pretend to be somebody else just so other people can love you, then those people are falling in love with a cartoon.
They will feel betrayed when you show your true personality. I hope you see how this works.
It is Too Easy to Fall in Love with Actors and Actresses
If people are trying to please you and put on a show so you can fall in love with them, you are simply falling in love with actors and actresses.
Just as it is very bad to put on a show, so they can love you, it is also equally bad for them to put on a show, so you can be attracted to them. This works both ways.
Unfortunately, any kind of relationship based on deception is doomed to fail. Either you are going to suffer in silence or the relationship is never going to mature.
If you want your relationship to benefit both of you equally, then you need to step beyond the lies. You need to stop expecting your partner to put on a show.
You have to remember that people only engage in certain types of behavior because there is some sort of emotional payoff for them.
There is some sort of reward at the end of the tunnel. Your romantic partners become actors and actresses because you give them some sort of reward.
If you cut off the reward, they would stop lying. They would start behaving according to who they really are.
That is exactly what you want to see happen. That is exactly where you want your relationship to be.
You want to build your relationship on honesty. You want to establish your relationship on solid bedrock of integrity.
You are not going to do that if you are giving out signals that tell people you will only emotionally reward them if they behave a certain way.
If they go through all sorts of hoops to try to please you, then your relationship will be based on a lie.
Focus on What is Real
If you do not want to fall in love too fast, focus on what is real.
Reality is unpleasant. Reality often comes with all sorts of imperfections.
This is the best thing that can happen for you because when you choose to fall in love with somebody based on who they really are, your relationship will be based on acceptance.
Your relationship will be based on emotional maturity instead of wishful thinking. I hope you can see the difference.